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Quote reblogged from Ramblings of an average human.Trigger Warning: Rape Jokes
I don’t know if rape jokes encourage rape culture. I don’t care. You still shouldn’t tell them.
Statistically, if you have told a rape joke to a group of more than five people, one of the people you told it to was a rape survivor, possibly of multiple rapes. They will not necessarily disclose this to you; rape apologism is endemic in society and most rape survivors are cautious about whom they tell. Some may even be too ashamed of their rape to admit it to anyone, or because of rape-minimizing narratives like “men can’t be raped” and “I consented to oral, so I couldn’t have been raped” may not admit it even to themselves. The fact remains: if you’ve told dozens of rape jokes in your life, then you have almost certainly told a joke that minimizes or trivializes rape in front of a survivor.
And if you put as your Facebook status “I totally raped at Halo today” for your two hundred Facebook friends to see, statistically, you have just reminded thirty-three people of one of the worst experiences of their entire lives.
To describe how well you did at a video game.
Good job!
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Photo reblogged from Bitches' Guide To Etiquette
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Post reblogged from Autism and "Fuck Your Shit"
It makes me sad that this has so many notes.
If anybody wants to do any of these things, please come inbox me!
(Source: lessthanperfect21)
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Today I lived through one of the most traumatizing experiences of my life thus far.
I live down the street from a small park, and I decided that it was nice enough to take a jog down there. The park is usually desolate, so I figured I would be alone.
I was dressed in board shorts and a t-shirt. Nothing necessarily girly. Also, as seen above, my hair is pretty short. Most would say that I look like a boy.
When I finally made my way to the park, there were a few boys there messing around. I didn’t really think anything of them being there, so I continued with my jog and began to approach them, seeing as they were sitting right by the path I was on.
I was finally close enough to talk to them, but instead of just ignoring me, two of them began to jog in front of me. They eventually slowed down their pace and were basically jogging right next to me. I had my iPod in and I wasn’t listening to anything they were saying, because I figured they weren’t saying anything worth listening to.
After about twenty paces with the two of them on each side of myself, one of them did something I never expected: he pulled his arm back and completely clocked me in the face with his elbow. After he hit me, his friend looked at me and said “Have a nice day, dyke.”
I immediately stopped walking because I could feel the blood gushing down my face and I ran back home. I haven’t stopped crying since.
The only reason why I took a picture of this and the only reason why I’m posting it on my blog is because I want people to know that these things actually happen. I haven’t even cleaned my face off yet. This is more important I have been a victim of bullying for quite some time now (ever since I cut my hair off) and today was the first time I’ve ever experienced the physical aspect of it. I have never felt so horrible about myself as I do right now.
So please, followers, if you see ANYBODY getting bullied (not just your friends or family) help them out…because I can guarentee that if I had somebody by my side when this happened, I would feel a lot better.
Today I got clocked in the face and injured because of the way I look. What a world we live in.
Reblogging this because I feel all my followers must hear this story.
This world. :(
oh my fucking god people are horrible.
Jesus christ, what a bunch of fucking assholes
that’s horrible! <3 Hugs for you for being brave and telling your story.
(Source: rchlbrry)
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Quote reblogged from Autism and "Fuck Your Shit"[MASSIVE RAPE CULTURE TRIGGER WARNING] I’m sorry. I’m a man, so I clearly have no idea of what rape is. Stop polarizing the argument and take a look at what you’re actually saying.
Some asshole on Facebook whom, with much reluctance, I’m keeping anonymous.
In other words, “WHAT ABOUT THE POOR MEN!!!”
(via sanityscraps)
reblogging for signal boost. seriously. Wtf is this shit?
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Photo reblogged from You're not supposed to be in here
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sword-meets-rose:
nattycattynat:
[TW: Abuse and rape]
welcometothelauracone:
bowiecadmium:
feministblackboard:
A few weeks ago my mom stapled pages of a story in one of her women’s magazines together and handed it to me. She gave it to me pretty much with the tag lines “for your feminist blog” and “something new to consider.” Indeed it was; she knows me well.
The story is titled “I was forced to be pregnant.” With a title like that, reading it was actually not on the top of my to read list. I thought it was about women not exercising their right to choice. I was very, very wrong on that one.
Have you ever heard of Reproductive coercion? It is a term that was quite recently coined by the advocates against domestic violence to describe a certain type of abuse some women face. It occurs when a man pressures their partner to have kids and/or impregnates them against their will. Reproductive coercion comes in three different types:1. Emotional pressure that turns into verbal and physical abuse.2. Sabotaging birth control3. Marital rapeOver 75% of women 19-49 who reported once experiencing domestic violence also endured some type of reproductive control by men. It’s all about control and domination over a woman’s body.
The first story in the magazine is about a woman who got married around 36 years of age. After a few months of dating her boyfriend talked excitedly about having children. After he proposed he began calling her “The Babymaker.” She then confided with him that one of her fallopian tubes was blocked. He in return insisted she see a fertility doctor. She recounts, “I had finally met a great guy who was eager to start a family with me. What woman wouldn’t fall for that?” Soon after her honeymoon he persisted on in an obsessive manner, but his efforts had to be temporarily halted as she had to get emergency back surgery. Alas, 6 months into recovery he was back to pressuring her again. She was in much pain at the time due to her back, but she agreed to In Vitro Fertilization. She then became pregnant, but soon miscarried. In response, her husband grabbed her by the neck, choking her. He apologized, blaming his outburst on his grief and had her sign up for another round of IVF. And then a third round. She tried to put him off with the excuse that she needed to weigh more before she could take treatments, her husband forced her to get on the scale often and filled the fridge with fattening foods. “It hurt that all I was good for was getting pregnant.” She recounts. At the end, he screamed at her, threatening to replace her with a maid if she couldn’t get pregnant and she told him she no longer wanted to have his child. He destroyed bedroom furniture, pushed her down the stairs and threatened her with a gun. She fled to a domestic violence shelter.
The second story was about a woman who faced marital rape. This woman was 40, had a then boyfriend and two children from a previous marriage. After telling her boyfriend she did not want any more children, her boyfriend refused to wear a condom and began to rape her. She then became pregnant with her third child. Birth control was never an option for her because she couldn’t hide pills anywhere for he went through all of her belongings. Three months after giving birth, he raped her again, impregnating her with twins. She lost the twins in a physical fight with him, but soon became pregnant again. During her recovery she begged her obstetrician to remove her ovaries and devise a lie to tell him; that she had cancer. After a decade of sexual abuse and violence she was able to get a job that kept her out of the house and often times traveling.
One in four callers to the National Domestic Abuse hotline said that their partners had tried to force them to become pregnant. Why? As one woman stated, “Its like he wants to own me from the inside out.” Having a baby is the perfect tie that binds. These type of abusers want to create a circumstance in which their partner is dependent on him.
WHAT’S THAT HAVE TO DO WITH PLANNED PARENTHOOD?
Many voters never consider how defunding these clinics could hurt victims of domestic violence who turn to them for counseling as well as pregnancy prevention. Abused women will turn to health care providers long before they will turn to domestic abuse hotlines and organizations. Many women in abusive relationships rely on life saving, affordable care programs such as Title X. It is critical that such places are open and operation when women and children need them so desperately.
“Its like he wants to own me from the inside out.”
“Its like he wants to own me from the inside out.”
“Its like he wants to own me from the inside out.”
“Its like he wants to own me from the inside out.”
read this. very powerful and important stuff.
Fallacious argument. Appeal to fear. “If you defund planned parenthood, you could be abused and in need, and then where will you go?”uhm. yeah. There are other forms of birth control, also, like intrauterine devices and the shot.
Also, moving. If you’re in danger, move. Nothing is worth your life being in danger. Not a job, for sure.
Do you have ANY idea how expensive the shot and IUDs are? Do you know how classist you’re being? Some people can’t get out of relationships because they have no money. Are you shitting me right now? This isn’t fear. These things fucking happen and NO, it’s not as simple as you like to put it.
i’m sorry, doesn’t planned parenthood provide cheap contraception? And you can get out of a relationship. You can go elsewhere. I know women who’ve done this, women who’ve been legally broke, but they never gave up, and now they’re in school and working and have homes. We don’t have to depend on others for our livelihoods.](http://24.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_ln620zE62t1qgtmnto1_500.png)
[TW: Abuse and rape]
A few weeks ago my mom stapled pages of a story in one of her women’s magazines together and handed it to me. She gave it to me pretty much with the tag lines “for your feminist blog” and “something new to consider.” Indeed it was; she knows me well.
The story is titled “I was forced to be pregnant.” With a title like that, reading it was actually not on the top of my to read list. I thought it was about women not exercising their right to choice. I was very, very wrong on that one.
Have you ever heard of Reproductive coercion? It is a term that was quite recently coined by the advocates against domestic violence to describe a certain type of abuse some women face. It occurs when a man pressures their partner to have kids and/or impregnates them against their will. Reproductive coercion comes in three different types:
1. Emotional pressure that turns into verbal and physical abuse.
2. Sabotaging birth control
3. Marital rape
Over 75% of women 19-49 who reported once experiencing domestic violence also endured some type of reproductive control by men. It’s all about control and domination over a woman’s body.The first story in the magazine is about a woman who got married around 36 years of age. After a few months of dating her boyfriend talked excitedly about having children. After he proposed he began calling her “The Babymaker.” She then confided with him that one of her fallopian tubes was blocked. He in return insisted she see a fertility doctor. She recounts, “I had finally met a great guy who was eager to start a family with me. What woman wouldn’t fall for that?” Soon after her honeymoon he persisted on in an obsessive manner, but his efforts had to be temporarily halted as she had to get emergency back surgery. Alas, 6 months into recovery he was back to pressuring her again. She was in much pain at the time due to her back, but she agreed to In Vitro Fertilization. She then became pregnant, but soon miscarried. In response, her husband grabbed her by the neck, choking her. He apologized, blaming his outburst on his grief and had her sign up for another round of IVF. And then a third round. She tried to put him off with the excuse that she needed to weigh more before she could take treatments, her husband forced her to get on the scale often and filled the fridge with fattening foods. “It hurt that all I was good for was getting pregnant.” She recounts. At the end, he screamed at her, threatening to replace her with a maid if she couldn’t get pregnant and she told him she no longer wanted to have his child. He destroyed bedroom furniture, pushed her down the stairs and threatened her with a gun. She fled to a domestic violence shelter.
The second story was about a woman who faced marital rape. This woman was 40, had a then boyfriend and two children from a previous marriage. After telling her boyfriend she did not want any more children, her boyfriend refused to wear a condom and began to rape her. She then became pregnant with her third child. Birth control was never an option for her because she couldn’t hide pills anywhere for he went through all of her belongings. Three months after giving birth, he raped her again, impregnating her with twins. She lost the twins in a physical fight with him, but soon became pregnant again. During her recovery she begged her obstetrician to remove her ovaries and devise a lie to tell him; that she had cancer. After a decade of sexual abuse and violence she was able to get a job that kept her out of the house and often times traveling.
One in four callers to the National Domestic Abuse hotline said that their partners had tried to force them to become pregnant. Why? As one woman stated, “Its like he wants to own me from the inside out.” Having a baby is the perfect tie that binds. These type of abusers want to create a circumstance in which their partner is dependent on him.
WHAT’S THAT HAVE TO DO WITH PLANNED PARENTHOOD?
Many voters never consider how defunding these clinics could hurt victims of domestic violence who turn to them for counseling as well as pregnancy prevention. Abused women will turn to health care providers long before they will turn to domestic abuse hotlines and organizations. Many women in abusive relationships rely on life saving, affordable care programs such as Title X. It is critical that such places are open and operation when women and children need them so desperately.
“Its like he wants to own me from the inside out.”
“Its like he wants to own me from the inside out.”
“Its like he wants to own me from the inside out.”
“Its like he wants to own me from the inside out.”
read this. very powerful and important stuff.
Fallacious argument. Appeal to fear. “If you defund planned parenthood, you could be abused and in need, and then where will you go?”
uhm. yeah. There are other forms of birth control, also, like intrauterine devices and the shot.Also, moving. If you’re in danger, move. Nothing is worth your life being in danger. Not a job, for sure.
Do you have ANY idea how expensive the shot and IUDs are? Do you know how classist you’re being? Some people can’t get out of relationships because they have no money. Are you shitting me right now? This isn’t fear. These things fucking happen and NO, it’s not as simple as you like to put it.
i’m sorry, doesn’t planned parenthood provide cheap contraception? And you can get out of a relationship. You can go elsewhere. I know women who’ve done this, women who’ve been legally broke, but they never gave up, and now they’re in school and working and have homes. We don’t have to depend on others for our livelihoods.
(Source: feminist-blackboard)
